Computers have become omnipresent and as such
have become the means of liberating people from
distasteful traditional jobs and offering the prospect
of remunerative home-based employment. But
working at home can be hard.

There are numerous distractions at hand….
pets, children, television — and the always tempting
refrigerator.

Yes, it is simple to get distracted, lose focus, and miss
opportunities.

But, these problems and challenges are not nearly
as hard and potentially destructive as this one:
the judgmental partner. Instead of loyal, loving,
enthusiastic support you start to hear the nagging
refrain of: "You’re spending too much time on the
notebook." The more regularly you hear it… the greater
your problem… and the more urgent this message.

This is a problem you must solve, for stoppage to do
so leads to estrangement, even divorce… with your notebook
cited as correspondent. What can you do before you
become a highly rated episode on "Judge Judy"?

Request spousal support from the get go

No home-based business should ever be started
without at least a discussion between the partners
about what this is likely to mean for their relationship. New
businesses, home-based or otherwise, need your full attention,
extra hours and complete concentration. Your partner needs
to know this… and prepare accordingly.

Thus, before you start on this demanding odyssey,
go away for a romantic week-end. Be fresh! Be charming!
Delight in! Your energy level for such dissipations may not
be quite this high for months to come. Cavort now.
 
Refreshed? Revitalized? Its  time to get down to
business by, initially, making it clear to your partner
what you’ll need to launch your business and to bring
home the bacon.

Item: you will keep regular business hours and
during these hours interruptions are not permitted.
In other words, unless there is a bona fide crisis,
you must focus on the business, the whole business,
and nothing but the business.

Spousal covenant to this point is key, for your
significant other may well "forget" this clause when there’s
"just one small errand to run, Pookie." As Nancy Reagan used
to say, "Just say no." Once you’re weakened on this point,
you’re nothing more than a marionette on a very small string.
Oh, my!

Item: when extra time is required (as it will be when
construction a business), you will inform your partner as
ahead of schedule in the day as possible. Such courtesies go far
towards reconciling a restive, desire-to-be-with-you
partner.

Make it clear what you are doing, why it’s valuable and how
much time you’re going to need to end the project at hand.
This kind of communication is imperative to keep your
partner empathetic and encouraging.

"You’re spending way too much time on that blankety
blank notebook!"

You’ve worked hard… you start to see results…
you are tickled… and then the partner hits you with
this! What a revolting development this is! What to do?

You have 2 options: hear but do nothing… or tackle
the come forth head on right now.

I recommend Option 2, because stoppage to respond
to this problem now only ensures it will grow quick and
become A Real Problem very, very soon.

Sit your partner down, clarify that you need their
support; that you are doing all you’re doing for them…
for the children… for the family. Make it clear that you
will continue to do what you have set out to do but that
doing it will be far better with spousal support than
without it. Make this an Academy Award performance…
replete with eyes locked together, hand holding, bear
hugs… perhaps even a tear or two. It will all be worth
it if you’ll by no means have to hear again the words "You are
spending too much time on the notebook."

Hint:

Want to impress your partner and get the cooperation
you require? Bribe them. Take some of the money you’re
making; place it in envelope. Take partner to dinner… and
have the waiter deliver along with dessert. Make sure the
cash is accompanied by the briefest of notes saying,
simply, profoundly "I like you." Say nothing when this
present arrives. Wait for spousal reaction… which should
be as surprised and tender (and accommodating) as you
may maybe want.

If the business fails.

With the best will in the world and all the time required…
with full and complete partner support your business may
fail. Sadly, a very hefty percentage of home-based businesses
do. Knowing you, you’ll want to try and try again until you’ve
found the winning formula. You’re willing to risk again, but
your partner, in the clearest possible way, says "No way, Jose!
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt."

What now?

Hand them this magnificent quote from Teddy Roosevelt’s
well-known speech on "Citizenship in a Republic", delivered
at the Sorbonne, Paris in 1910:

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out
how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds
may maybe have done them better. The credit belongs to the man
who is in fact in the arena, whose face is marred by dust
and sweat and blood: who strives valiantly: who errs, and
comes small again and again, because there is no effort without
error and shortcoming; but who does in fact strive to do the
deeds; who knows the fantastic enthusiasms, the fantastic devotions;
who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best knows in the
end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he
fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall
by no means be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory
nor defeat."

Hand this quote, I say, to your partner and make it unadorned that
you have an obligation, initially and foremost, to yourself to carry
on, to persevere, and, at last, forge victory from defeat.

This is a crucial moment in your relationship, a moment of
epiphany, revelation, resolve.

Now, perhaps for the initially time, your partner truly knows
and understands you. Now for the initially time they see
you as indefatigable, admirable, larger than life, the mate
they have always wanted…. and by no means until this very moment
knew they already had.

Sit down now at your notebook, for now, at last,  your
truly beloved is on your side without cavil or gripe.
Expect your favorite lunch to be delivered today notebook-side…
for now you have, well and truly, the helpmate you require
for the success you will both delight in so very much.